What Destroys and Nurtures Almost Everything!
I have seen bad days turning into good, worse scenarios changing into best ones, sorrows into joy and losing into gaining. So, looks like almost everything can transform or change no matter how bleak of a situation is. Right?
Wrong!
Unfortunately, there is one thing that literally destroys it all without promising any redeeming of what gets destroyed. Words. Seemingly, harmless, weightless and just easily accessible to everyone, when are used recklessly, maliciously and thrown at each other in a spat, get you engaged you in a verbal war merely to prove your point. You may win the argument and prevail in the situation but what happens afterwards is a sheer loss of whatever has been hammered with your words.
They say actions speak louder than words. However, I believe words manifest your intention and are further demonstrated by your actions. Liars and hypocrites ofcourse are an exception here.
In any relationship, anger and what gets said in the heat of the moment usually results in a rebound after a moment of epiphany followed by an apology. However, things when planned and said or are shoved down the other's throat incessantly leave an everlasting mark. When people don't forget, they usually don't forgive and that gives rise to the vicious hate-cycle.
Results?
Resentment and anger followed by a permanent loss of what is affected.
A parent shouting at her child and pouring harshness, boss humiliating a worker in a town-hall meeting, partners hurting each other in an argument, hate speech or malicious content - words are bound to create a long lasting impact. Whether, they sap your energy or make you feel repulsive towards each other, they just destroy things. Whats formed is bitterness, tears, virtual stone walls, awkward silence and lots of negativity.
We, humans are social animals and thrive on relationships - strong, healthy and reliable ones are super important in determining our overall well-being. In the presence of care and encouragement, we feel protected and perfectly bonded with each other. A genuine compliment or a sincere apology can either brighten someone's day or can fix whats broken. That's the power of your words as you utter them - how you utter them. Yes, even the tone carries huge significance which I will discuss some other time.
Choose wisely, how you want to use this power. You opting for annihilation or nurturing your relationships, your words are just brain-to-mouth-filter away. Create a positive impact on people and be remembered as someone who changed people's lives in a better way.
If you cannot offer kindness, walk away lest you find yourself affecting someone with your words.
If you are not offered kindness, walk away lest you find yourself getting affected with their sore words or you find yourself stooping down to their level and feeling guilty later.
At the end of the day, we all agree without a doubt, being kind is better than being right!
Isn't it?
About the Author: Believes in herself!
Wrong!
Unfortunately, there is one thing that literally destroys it all without promising any redeeming of what gets destroyed. Words. Seemingly, harmless, weightless and just easily accessible to everyone, when are used recklessly, maliciously and thrown at each other in a spat, get you engaged you in a verbal war merely to prove your point. You may win the argument and prevail in the situation but what happens afterwards is a sheer loss of whatever has been hammered with your words.
They say actions speak louder than words. However, I believe words manifest your intention and are further demonstrated by your actions. Liars and hypocrites ofcourse are an exception here.
In any relationship, anger and what gets said in the heat of the moment usually results in a rebound after a moment of epiphany followed by an apology. However, things when planned and said or are shoved down the other's throat incessantly leave an everlasting mark. When people don't forget, they usually don't forgive and that gives rise to the vicious hate-cycle.
Results?
Resentment and anger followed by a permanent loss of what is affected.
A parent shouting at her child and pouring harshness, boss humiliating a worker in a town-hall meeting, partners hurting each other in an argument, hate speech or malicious content - words are bound to create a long lasting impact. Whether, they sap your energy or make you feel repulsive towards each other, they just destroy things. Whats formed is bitterness, tears, virtual stone walls, awkward silence and lots of negativity.
Confidence, trust, respect, love or simply the over all value of a relationship. Things get destroyed beyond the point of redemption. Seemingly simply irreparable.
We, humans are social animals and thrive on relationships - strong, healthy and reliable ones are super important in determining our overall well-being. In the presence of care and encouragement, we feel protected and perfectly bonded with each other. A genuine compliment or a sincere apology can either brighten someone's day or can fix whats broken. That's the power of your words as you utter them - how you utter them. Yes, even the tone carries huge significance which I will discuss some other time.
Choose wisely, how you want to use this power. You opting for annihilation or nurturing your relationships, your words are just brain-to-mouth-filter away. Create a positive impact on people and be remembered as someone who changed people's lives in a better way.
If you cannot offer kindness, walk away lest you find yourself affecting someone with your words.
If you are not offered kindness, walk away lest you find yourself getting affected with their sore words or you find yourself stooping down to their level and feeling guilty later.
At the end of the day, we all agree without a doubt, being kind is better than being right!
Isn't it?
About the Author: Believes in herself!
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