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Sipping on my coffee and listening an interesting conversation of three students waiting for their class to begin was one of those days at the campus when I would want to keep analyzing human behavior till the point of exhaustion. Well, and to be super honest, that was not the first and last time I felt so, nevertheless the point of exhaustion has not arrived till now. Not that it happens sporadically but because the immensity of interest does not let me wear out. I really am not an expert in knowing people, not even close to an 'expert', however, I do know one chief common thing prevalent in majority of the people - 'emotions' . How people are going about their simple lives entangled in complicated emotions leading to their behavior is what fascinates me to the hilt. I can actually let my fingers walk over this keyboard, filling pages and pages on how interesting of a phenomenon it is for me. What piques my curiosity leads me to the finding that is closer ...

A friend asked me the other day how do you know if you have found 'the one'. My first thought was we can never really find this out until we get to know the other person. Interacting with the person tells us a lot about them - alot. Sometimes we run into people and we know we would not want to see them again. Other times we hit off with someone so well that we decide to spend our life with them. Our set of priorities vary from each other and hence our likes and dislikes are different as well. Nevertheless, there exist a couple of universally acknowledged indications that show loud out and clear - THEY ARE THE ONE! Out of those few I am going to state the following most important seven for you: 1. Its Always Exciting:  Its just not the initial butterflies in stomach followed by sparks and lights and then subsequent dying kind of thing. Interest and fondness for one another continue to grow and there is not a moment when you feel like not wanting to be with them. ...

A number of things exist in your life and serve no real purpose, yet you are sticking to them and keeping them a part of your life for all the negative reasons. These reasons may vary from you being habitual to them or you being fearful of letting them go. Nevertheless, these are there only to clutter your life while bringing no real value to it and ought to be removed or replaced with something better, immediately - I repeat immediately. If you find yourself comfortable with the idea of snuggling with any of the following things at any point of time then allow me to me debunk your whatsoever grounds on which you are glued to them: 1. Junk Food: Idea of having easy fast food seems harmless. However, what you are chugging down is simply disastrous to your system. Set a personal challenge to avoid the intake of anything that is harmful for your health for a week or a month. Replace the temptation with lots of healthy diet. Once you will get used to eating healthy, you will...

Sometimes we end up doing things that we wish we had never done. Other times we do every possible thing to get what we want and fail. Either way, the feeling of 'regret' arises and it varies on the situations and individuals experiences. There are healthy regrets and then there are the ones that lead to depression. My favorites are obviously the healthy ones. Really, I love them. They are like your strict, seeking for perfectionism, teacher. And then there are their bad twin; who will be hard on you but of zero benefit to you. Lets have a peek on both the twins: a. You have decided to look back at your past with a self-judgement lens and have rated yourself under 'to be improved' category. That is where corrective measures and actions come in action and you start to compensate for things that went wrong. The process is all about improving yourself via not repeating the past mistakes. These sort of regrets are healthy and necessary for your personal gro...

As much ambitious as him? Oh, you are scaring him away. Refusing a job offer because he doesn't like it? Proof that you love him. Nodding at something you don't believe in but oh well, since he said it, its all you have to agree on for the day. With all this you have got all of it under control? Uh-huh! There is a breed of women who go around fluttering their eyes and twirling their hair, doing all sorts of things that they believe could help them grow their chances to appear as a perfect catch. According to the Harvard Business Review, a study confirmed that both male and female students newly admitted to an unnamed elite MBA program, showed different answers when told their responses would be viewed by career office than when told their responses would be viewed by their classmates. The single women downplayed their ambition and the element of leadership was understated on knowing that their responses will be viewed by their male counterparts. Shocking on how even super s...

Do this. Do that. Fix this. Begin this. Achieve it. Increase it. More. More. More. And Some More. Take a breather you all. Pull the brakes and relax for a moment. How are you feeling now? I hope better. Even the idea of pausing for a jiffy makes us feel utterly relaxed. Imagine on how in reality taking THAT necessary break will make us feel. Life is getting fast paced by the day and its actually getting nutty to keep up with everything. All sorts of pressures and all that rush is making us lose the whole ideology of having some down time to unwind. Taking a break in timely fashion help us not only raising our productivity level but also help in our well being. We don't have to have a fancy one to feel relaxed - an enjoyable one matters. Highlighting the fundamental reasons below in case you feel tired and worn out and still not showing mercy on yourself: 1. Recharging Batteries: Go for a vacation or hit that luxurious spa - doing things that could refuel you and rev...

There is manipulative and then there is highly manipulative. People falling in either of the category do not come with labels of ‘Warning’. They creep into your life and leave you with a big fat lesson to never get manipulated ever again.  Chances are you will come across many of them in life, however real catch is to know about them so in detail that you identify them, right before they worm their way into your beautiful life and mess it up. This is possible only when you know their major characteristics. Want to have a close look on who they are and what they do? Here we go: 1. Mastered the Art of Lying: Foremost and topping the list is lies. They are superb liars and excellent actors. They will lie to you so conveniently that you will not be able to differentiate between the truth and deception. All that what seems real is not real and what is real seems fake. Feeling dizzy already? Exactly, they are going to spin you in their web of lies without having a bit of...

Home. Neighborhood. City. Country. World.  I want you to leave everything right now and think your role in the aforementioned respective places. I reckon you are thinking harder now. Few of you have managed to see yourself going beyond home. Fewer beyond neighborhood and fewest beyond your city. Selfish enough?  Some of you will not want to be termed as selfish for not doing anything that goes out in the benefit of a large number of people because of the following main reasons: a) I am too occupied with my stuff going on in my life and even if I want to find time for all the community work, I am unable to do it. b)World is already too messed up with all sorts of bad stuff and my actions alone are not going to create any difference. c) Onus is on the people we give our votes to as they are the ones who are running the institutes and govern policies and are in reality predominantly responsible in bringing about the change on a bigger scale. ...

Being busy and being productive are two different things altogether. You can be busy and not be able to produce any remarkable results. You may be spending long hours at office and still not matching the expectations of your boss. More so, you are missing out on all the fun as well. You seem to cringe a little on how time is running by so fast and despite your serious efforts you are just NOT there. All work and no play pretty much defines the core of it. While there are people who are excelling at work, spending super quality time with their family and friends and so much so that have taken up a number of hobbies and still don't feel burnt out. Who are they? Super heroes?  Well, no they are just like you, ordinary and usual, nevertheless, have chosen to function in an extraordinary manner. What sets them apart are the following highlights of their characteristics: 1. Goal Oriented: Setting a goal and working towards it is their special quality. Work goals, relat...

There is NO perfect relationship. Arguments, differences and well fights too are inevitable when it comes to a relationship between two different people. This, at times, leads us to believe that things have changed because 'they' have changed and so on and so forth. We are all different and unique in our own ways. Healthy differences are important for us in order to be challenged for our own personal growth. Things however seem to look imperfect when we get into situations when we start to doubt if it is what we have always wanted. Good news is despite the imperfection of your relationship which may involve scores of differences, if you are happy and believe that every coming day is better than the one that has passed and its because of them that you look forward to the next day being brighter and cheerier; then accept my heartiest congratulations - you are in a healthy relationship! Let me acquaint you with the following seven signs that are a reassurance package for...

Back in '99, I was in grade VIII and was on summer break when the only sports that whole of the country enjoys, was all set to take on the world stage. Every nook and cranny, tv channels (we did not have too many of them at that time), every radio channel, markets and almost everyone had cricket fever going on. Its almost two decades now, since that event but the memories of all that mega event are still fresh in my mind. May it be that milk ad (Candia), which would be running on the fall of wickets or on a shot that would gain the batsmen four or six runs or may it be the fact that the event was hosted in England, which is considered as our second home town - light green shirts and finger biting matches, I remember it all. All the Pakistan cricket aficionados will agree that after '92, we only had seen '99 as one of the best years for Pakistan cricket. Why not? Pakistan was on a roll. If you ask me what are my rock solid reasons to cherish and treasure it; I will ...

Where networking on social media has brought the people closer, only on virtual level, it certainly has given rise to a tons of complexities. While the growing impact of social media on the quality of relationships and interaction has been extensively discussed, only few of us have identified the horrendous downside of it. Yes, I am talking about the number of likes and other sorts of acknowledgements that one receives on the content we post. Its SAD on how we seek validation from others on things we believe in. If we don't get sufficient acknowledgement, we go through that 'May be its not as good as I had thought' feel while we get a chest-thumping feel on getting a big round of virtual applause. Instant pleasure that we derive in receiving a higher number of likes tells quite alot about our deep association of our identity and stature determined by and at the social network. As if those fashion magazines making barbie like frame a woman's ultimate goal or a ...

Men are from Mars and Gentlemen are Miracles from Heaven. Sounds like some exaggeration? Oh well, we all agree, in this day and age the whole idea of feminism is morphed into a belief system that has killed the very few basics. The basics that have been ubiquitously found, regardless of the cultural and geographic diversity, seem to gone away. Is that why we hear them saying gentlemen are a dying art? Picture is not as bleak though. They exist and are pretty much  obvious with how they behave around you or NOT around you. Want to know if a miracle has happened to you? Lets find out that right below with these 7 traits of a true gentleman: 1. Honorable: He is honest and righteous. This in turn makes him worthy of respect. May it be concerning his relationship with you or his business deal that he wants to seal for a major breakthrough - he will never twist things to his advantage. He will always fear of losing respect in anyone's eyes for the sake of some short te...

Its a new era in the fashion world and it comes with no set of rules. This summer is all about following your heart and being yourself. Experimenting new look or sticking to your style statement; Girls! you have a wide array of options to invent and reinvent yourself.  Want to go with high-end and classic labels or anonymous and up-and-coming designers. Choice is yours. Whatever and however you wear is trendy and happening. Nevertheless, I don't want you  to miss out on the not-to-miss-on the Summer '17 fashion trends.  Here we go: 1. Pink-a-boo: My personal favorite and Summer '17 hottest trend - Pink tops the chart. Ranging all sorts - from hot pink to baby pink to neon pink to raspberry. Go for it without a second thought. Remember to pull it off with the make up that compliments what shade you are wearing. Lighter tones with dusty pink and emphasizing one facial feature with darker shades - you are all set for your work or a evening hang-out. So why not ...

In the midst of Jinnah Market, Islamabad; in the cacophony and crowds, drowned in the voice of a small boy who seemed to be wallowing in anxiety of not being able to sell a few flags all day long. While everyone was busy celebrating independence of the country, the boy however, seemed to be laser-focused on grabbing the next opportunity that could enable him to reduce the articles he was cautiously holding in his hand. That tiny figure drew my attention the moment I stepped out of my car, since the penury, at times could take you out from self-indulgence in its own remarkable way. While the air carried a sense of ebullience, there was not a modicum of joy over the young boy’s face and that stood him apart from the rest of the crowd. On seeing me approaching towards him, his face lit up and he instantly put forward a flag to me while deploying his innocence as the best marketing tool he had. What arouse my interest was his fungal affected feet and his absolute indifference...